parenting two daughters

I narrate an incident which actually improved the relations within the house.

I had come from my office after a hard days work.As is our habit,my wife and I after tea,went out for an evening walk within the appartment campus.This gives us an oportunity to share our day activities and discus our feelings and problems if any that may have crop up.

Women like to share and do not look for solutions from men.I listened to her problem of handling two daughters the whole day during vacations.There is sibling rivalry and the two of them fight over small things,create ruckus in the house for nothing leading to my wife getting upset for the day,the eldest daughter's studies suffer and when I come back from office in the evening,the environment in the house is disturbed.There is no body on talking terms with each other.

I analysed the problem as it had started recurring much more than our liking.

My youngest daughter is 9 years old and the eldest is almost 14. This age difference is causing the problem.The eldest is treated as an adult while the younger one is treated as a kid.We pamper her,but we do not listen to her as we listen to our elder daughter.As a result,she can feel the difference between the importance given to her views and those given by her elder sis.She suffers from attention deficit.

We as parents have to exercise sensitivity in our attention and behaviour towards them.It has to be balanced and fairly transparent.The child should also need to be explained the consequences of such a rowdy behaviour and it becoming part of its nature and habit.

The child should be treated as an individual in its own right.